Though universally shared, loss and grief remain deeply personal and intimately our own. Who we are, the nature of the relationship with the deceased, timing and circumstances of the death, and many other variables personalize our grief reaction. Taking into consideration the many variables that influence our personal experience of grief can help guide us meaningfully through mourning. Despite the universal quality, loss and grief are never generic.
Reflect upon the many ways in which the losses you have experienced have their own individual circumstances and qualities, and are experientially distinct from each other. Consider, for each one, what in particular you are grieving. This can help you decide on mourning activities that are a reflection of the unique person who has died, and the specific things lost as a result of his or her death.
To read more about the personal side of grief and mourning click on the following pages: Timing and Circumstances; Personal & Relationship Variables; Culture and Religion.
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